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HOW TO LOVE THE LIFE YOU’RE LIVING


“Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else.” Galatians 6:4 (NIV)


Today’s guest post is by Nicki Koziarz. She is the Creator/Leader of the well known Proverbs 31 Ministries.


While Nicki’s main focus and passion is reaching women for Christ, her messages are relevant to both men and women alike. Nicki’s message and devotional featured today is a prime example. How often do people, in general, compare themselves with celebrities: “If I had the money that [insert Name of fave celebrity here] has, I’d be so totally happier than I am now.” But would you really? Are you ready to strap on the troubles all that money created for them? Nicki argues that God is interested in using us as we are, where we are, and with what we have—not our wannabe selves.


I spent the first few years of my childhood in a small town. We were by no means well off, and we always seemed to have just enough to get by. So rarely was there room in our budget for extras … like the black and white saddle shoes I wanted one year.


My dad was the high school football coach, which meant I spent a lot of Friday nights with my mom and brother in the bleachers. The game itself was anything but thrilling to me. But I didn’t mind going because it meant I was able to watch the cheerleaders. That was exciting!


I would watch and dream of the day I too would get out there in a pleated skirt with pom-poms and make the crowd roar with enthusiasm for our team. The cheerleaders must have known how much I looked up to them because they invited me and my best friend to come cheer with them for one of the last games.


Our elementary schoolgirl excitement was out of control!


High school cheerleaders?! YES!


We practiced in the backyard every chance we could get leading up to the game. And one afternoon, we even put on our uniforms.


But my zeal for this opportunity quickly faded as I looked down at my friend’s feet. She had a pair of brand-new, shiny, black and white saddle shoes!

My thoughts screamed with envy: What? Where did she get those? I need a pair too!


I went to my mom and pleaded for the shoes — but our bank account didn’t match my begging, so no matter what I said, it didn’t matter.


And so began the sowing of the seed of comparison in my life.


This seed reaps nothing but weeds of jealousy, envy and discontent into our lives. I wish I could tell you that was the only time I’ve struggled with the seed of comparison, but it’s not.


Today’s generation seems to be filled with more opportunities to compare ourselves with each other than ever before. We are constantly bombarded with social media feeds that tempt us to compare. Reality TV show us everything BUT reality. And advertisers tease us with promises that their products will provide perfection.


But here’s the deal … I LOVE today’s key verse, because it’s helping me find a rhythm in my soul with this comparison thing.


“Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else” (Galatians 6:4).


The reality is, comparison can compromise the individual calling and beautiful life God has given each of us.


If we spend more time looking at what others are doing or have, we could miss what we have and are supposed to do. Staying focused on what good things are happening in and through us will help keep this inner battle of comparison at bay.


Before that big football game, my mom actually found a pair of black and white saddle shoes I could borrow. No, they weren’t shiny brand-new ones like my friend had; in fact, they were pretty scuffed up and a little tight on my feet! But I was thrilled. I took so much pride in those shoes and I loved them.


Our culture will always try to tempt us with comparison, but God never does. He wants us to love our life just as much as He does. Even if the shoes are scuffed and tight … God helps us love where we are, not where we wish we could be.


God, help me love the life I live right now. Show me the good things I often overlook and help me be content with what I have. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


TRUTH FOR TODAY: Hebrews 6:10, “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.” (NIV)

Proverbs 30:8b-9, “Give me just enough to satisfy my needs. For if I grow rich, I may deny you and say, ‘Who is the LORD?’ And if I am too poor, I may steal and thus insult God’s holy name.” (NLT)


If Nicki’s devotional has drawn attention to your longing to discover and pursue all that God created you to be, New Day Pastoral Counseling Services can help. New Day offers Mentoring and Counseling Services that equip you with the right tools customized to your needs when encountering roadblocks to your goals and dreams.


Rev. Carlene Appel-MDiv., PC, CERC, is the owner of New Day. Her desire for every client, is for their wholistic health and well-being. By equipping people to overcome personal obstacles, they can be well on the journey to becoming all God has created them to be, with His help.


Call (630)557-6229 now to book your appointment. Remember, counseling is provided exclusively in your home. (Except in cases of domestic violence).


In your home counseling is available in 7 Chicagoland counties: Cook, DuPage, Kane, Kendall, Lake, McHenry, and Will.


New Day accepts cash, checks and all major Credit/ Debit cards through PayPal. Discounts for Senior Citizens 65+, and Active & Veteran military, (includes Reserves and National Guard).


Have a great day with New Day Pastoral Counseling Services. (630)557-6229)


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Is New Day just for people who are religious?

Not at all. Owner, Rev. Carlene Appel, works with all people regardless of whether or not they hold to a particular faith, or set of beliefs. She has even worked with atheists under Hospice care.

 

How does Pastoral Counseling differ from regular Counseling?

In addition to Counseling, a Pastoral Counselor also has specialized education and training in matters of spirituality, religious faith, and different religions. Thus, if a client wishes to include any of these during their sessions, a Pastoral Counselor is qualified and competent to do so.

 

Rev. Carlene holds a Master of Divinity degree (M.Div.), from Northern Seminary, and is an Ordained American Baptist minister. Additionally, having been raised Roman Catholic, she has been able to help countless numbers of Catholics every year. Over the past year, she has become a vessel of healing to survivors of predator priests. 

 

Is New Day a faith-based Counseling Practice?

Yes. This means Rev. Carlene or any Counselor working for New Day, won't discourage clients from exploring their spirituality or faith-related questions. Some clients have had questions of faith for years, but fear rejection from their clergy or people they have been worshipping with. Some have walked away from their faith or religion entirely. 

 

Wait a minute, aren't faith and religion the same thing?

Not at all. Religion is a human-constructed system providing a set of specific organized beliefs. While many find religion helpful to explain life, provide a moral compass, and connect them to the Divine, others do not. Some have suffered abuse or been otherwise deeply hurt by clergy or religious people.

 

OK, so how is faith different from religion then?

Faith, is something we are endowed with by our Creator. We first utilize faith shortly after birth. Though not aware of it or what it is, a helpless newborn, if not abused or neglected, soon develops a sense of faith and trust that s/he will have their needs met. While most people have faith in the God of their understanding, others claim faith in Science, nature, or even their own abilities. On a more basic level, humans practice blind faith every day that their car is going to run, that they will get to work, school, & back home safely, and that they will live to see another day.

 

I've heard that New Day is Christ-centered. What does that mean?

Glad you asked. It's a way of being. New Day strives to imitate Christ in the way business is conducted and how we treat all people, not just our clients. This means standing beside someone, not over them and building relationships with people regardless of race, class or gender. Being honest, ethical, accountable; practicing good listening skills. Extending compassion, dignity, grace, forgiveness, mercy, respect, and unconditional love. It also includes speaking up about and holding people accountable for injustices, and not keeping silent when they plan or are actively doing damaging & destructive acts to themselves or others.

So a New Day Counselor won't push religion on me?

Absolutely not! That would be very un-Christlike. He was always invitational and respected a person's choice. New Day strives to always imitate Jesus Christ. So whether you're religious or not, it doesn't matter. We stand ready to help: if you are dealing with depression, grief, trauma, abuse, marital conflict, etc. If you need mentoring, life coaching, or premarital counseling. If you have become disabled. If you have a loved one with Alzheimer's or Dementia.

 

Whoever you are, New Day invites you to lay your burdens down with us and experience compassionate, non-judgmental care wherever you call home, or at a safe location if the home isn't safe, or online (known as e-counsel, or telecounsel).

 

           SOLUTIONS FOR HEALTHCARE

 

Healthcare providers, agencies and facilities here's the solution  to the time and expense it takes to create temporary and PRN spiritual care positions. New Day is the FIRST Contract PRN Service Provider of Chaplains/Spiritual Care Coordinators to Hospices, home health agencies & other health care providers, as well as assisted living, memory care, and nursing & rehabilitation facilities, retirement communities, and supportive living centers. If you need a Spiritual Care person as a fill-in, while in transition, or while searching for a permanent Chaplain, think SOLUTIONS by New Day for all your temporary spiritual care needs.

 

 

Owner Rev. Carlene Appel is:

  • Fully insured for liability.

  • BLS-AED Certified.

  • Fluent in multiple Medical software programs including McKesson, Healthwyse, Allscripts, Homecare Homebase (HCHB), Kinnser, HospiceMD, Optima.

  • Always professionally attired, so your company always looks good. 

  • Always greeting customers with a Million-dollar smile.

  • Always ready to go with minimal orientation time. 

  • Knowledgeable in the business side of healthcare.

  • Experienced since 1985 with Senior Adults and Dementias.

  • Serving Hospice patients and their loved ones since 2007.

  • An active member of the Bloomingdale & Bartlett Area Chambers of Commerce.

  • Certified as a Trauma Professional and Emergency Response Chaplain

  • A visionary. Her 5 & 10 year business plans include adding more pastoral care professionals as New Day grows. Rev. Carlene believes that in the future, agencies like hers will become as commonplace as PRN Nurse agencies.

Rev. Carlene also offers a variety of interactive presentations for staff in-services, patients, family members, and your community. Topics include Compassion Fatigue, Trauma/Grief & Loss, Suicide Intervention & Recovery, Hospice 101, and Alzheimer's Disease & other forms of Dementia: Improving Visits and Care Delivery. 

 

Rev. Carlene was inspired to birth a new kind of Counseling and Care service to serve those who were needing a Counselor but unable or unwilling to travel to see one. For some, it's lack of transportation, a perceived stigma about mental illness, fear of leaving one's home, shame, embarrassment, or a thousand other reasons people can't or won't get the help they need.

 

God drew her attention to the benefits of providing this much-needed service to the Chicagoland area and beyond, wherever people call home. This was to be available to anybody, religious and non-religious alike, affordable, and without regard for things like race, class, or gender--the exact same way Jesus treated people. 

New Day Pastoral Counseling Services was born April 1, 2018--no April fools joke! In-home visits are available in these 7 Chicagoland Counties: Cook, DuPage, Kane, Kendall, Lake, McHenry, and Will.  ON-LINE Video TeleCounseling is available anywhere in the U.S. and Internationally.
Rev. Carlene is a Certified Trauma Professional through the International Association of Trauma Professionals (IATP)
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"Carlene is empathic and caring, with a strong background in counseling, and especially in the area of long-term health issues and elder care. "

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Our customers' security is top priority--NO compromises!

 

ABOUT REV. CARLENE

 

Rev. Carlene Appel began her ministry career in 1994,

  • Earned her Master of Divinity degree (M.Div.) in           2001 from Northern Baptist Theological Seminary                      (now Northern Seminary), Lombard, IL

  • An Ordained Minister in the American Baptist           Churches U.S.A.  denomination since 2001.  

  • Experienced. Has served as a Senior Adult Pastor, Hospital Chaplain, Hospice Chaplain (13 years), Solo Church Pastor, and more.

  • Trained first responder.

  • Founded a Chaplain Corps for the Specialized Interagency Response Team (SIRT) of the Henry County(IL) Sheriff's Dept. and served as its Coordinator, recruiting and training local pastors to respond to WMD incidents and natural disasters.

  • Experienced suicide interventionist and trainer.

  • Trained in WMD (Weapons of Mass Destruction) and WMD Incident Commander (COBRA), through the Depts. of Justice (DOJ) and Homeland Security.

  • Training and Certificate in Critical Incident Stress Mgt. CISM 

  • Graduate of Citizen's Police Academy Training through the Bloomingdale and Glendale Hts. Police Depts.

  • Certified Emergency Response Chaplain (CERC) currently serving at the Glendale Hts. Police Dept.

  • Certified Trauma Professional

  • Presenter of Interactive learning workshops and seminars

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NEW DAY PASTORAL COUNSELING SERVICES

BLOOMINGDALE, IL 60108-1818

PHONE: (630) 557-6229

FAX: (630) 491-1594

revcappel@newdaypcs.org

Rev. Carlene makes house calls throughout the Greater Chicagoland area in the following counties: DuPage, Cook, Kane, Kendall, Lake, McHenry, & Will.

For persons outside of these areas,try OUR SECURE E-Counseling!!! This service is available to clients anywhere geographically. When requesting an appointment, please indicate your preference for in-person or online service. IF YOU ARE IN IMMEDIATE DANGER, PLEASE CALL 911 OR ONE OF THE FOLLOWING NUMBERS:

NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE

1-800-273-TALK

NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE

1-800-799-SAFE

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