Greetings In the Name of Jesus Christ!
Rev. Carlene and her new "toy," a pneumatic framing nail gun
Many people are surprised to find out that I, a Reverend, Pastoral Counselor, Hospice Chaplain, Pastoral Care Provider, Wife, Mom, & Proud Grandma, enjoy building and construction type work. Yes! I love my tools, drive a Ford F-150 truck, and get as excited as Chip Gaines about demo. Taking out a wall or floor with a sledgehammer is a great stressbuster. For my January birthday I became the proud owner of a framing nail gun. Having the right tools is important and key to getting the job done right.
Similarly, when I'm counseling someone, I help them to make up a toolbag, so that in-between sessions they are able to avert going into crisis mode. For example, rape or sexual assault victims feel like they're, dirty, unworthy, damaged goods, and to blame for the senseless violence they have endured. A mirror is a good tool to have. Useful for affirming oneself, claiming the love of Christ, rebuking the Devil in the Name of Jesus, etc. Another good tool is music. Casting Crowns song "The Voice of Truth" reminds the victim not to listen to those fearful voices in their head blaming, name calling, telling them how worthless, weak and dirty they are. I recommend this tool when the hurtful, blaming voices are getting unbearable. "The Voice of Truth tells me a different story. The Voice of Truth says 'Do not be afraid'." goes the lyrics.
There's the key truth. Look through the Bible. Whenever the Lord or His Angel makes a visitation to call someone to service or reassure one who loves and serves Him from Genesis [see 15:1] on through the New Testament, you will notice the heavenly assurance that there is no need to fear. I teach my clients to learn to discern what voices they are hearing, particularly those recovering from sexual assault, abuse, PTSD and depression. The Voice of Truth which is God's, does not blame, condemn or shoot the wounded. Ephesians 6:10-17 warns us that we are engaged in Spiritual warfare. We must make sure we put on a full set of God's armor for daily wear against "the wiles of the Devil" (v.11). Read the passage to find out what that is. Get in front of that mirror and read Scriptures that affirm God's got your back. Play "The Voice of Truth" by Casting Crowns as many times and as often as needed.
If you are a victim of assault or abuse of any kind, start making up a toolbag, as part of your armor. Rest assured our God is a God of justice and He has nothing but compassion and grace for you and your suffering. His only Son, Jesus, suffered for the benefit of all of us
(Jn. 3:16-17) and wants to reach out to heal and restore you (Matt 11:28).
New Day Pastoral Counseling Services offers compassionate help and guidance for you in the comfort and safety of your own home. If home is not safe, there are alternate safe locations. Rev. Carlene provides non-judgmental services to you regardless of religion, race, or gender, and can meet with you in person in the Chicago area. E-Counseling is another option, and is available to you from anywhere. With your laptop, Smartphone, or tablet we can meet via Skype or FaceTime anywhere you are, anywhere you choose. All connections are HIPAA secure. New Day's computer system is monitored off site by our Cybersecurity Specialist. Go to the Contact page and request an appointment today.